I’m out of the office this week, spending the Jewish holiday of Passover with my family.
Passover is based on the ancient story of the Jewish slaves in Egypt who created freedom from bondage. Similar to Easter and other holidays this time of year, Passover represents the energy of Spring — the energy of renewal and rebirth, of cleaning out the cobwebs of Winter, and particularly the importance of creating freedom in your life (& business).
I use the holiday as a sacred yearly reminder to take stock of where I’m feeling in bondage and to do some “Spring Cleaning” so that I can feel lighter, more open, and more free and abundant in all areas of my life and business.
It’s such an important ritual because no matter who you are or how successful your business is, things can get heavy, stifling and congested if they go unchecked.
Here’s what bondage might look like for you right now:
- Holding on to certain clients who upset you are and such a mismatch that you hate working with them
- Having a schedule that is so busy you don’t feel you have enough breathing room
- Feeling stuck with a team member who sucks your energy instead of supports you
- Feeling intense pressure to show up on Facebook every single day
- Teaching or coaching on something that isn’t really in your brilliance or excites you, but you have a reputation for it so you continue on
- Being tied to a certain office or work space that is no longer aligned for you
- Feeling repressed in your mind — frequently feeling anxious, scared or resentful in your business.
Here’s how bondage often shows up for me. I am prone to making things feel more crowded and heavy than they need to be. Why? Because, for as much as I don’t want to feel “busy”, I love to feel busy. I love the feeling that there’s a lot of action happening in my business, that I serve lots and lots of clients and community members, that I get to support a lot of team members, that I’ve got lots of JV partners, that a ton is going on for me in Facebook. In my personal life, I also like to feel like I have a lot of friends, we have a lot of social plans, we’re doing a ton of cultural, educational and spiritual/nature things with the kids, etc.
These desires are in direct tension with my desire for peace, simplicity, and space.
Here’s what I’ve come to observe about myself and many others, no matter what your brand of bondage is. For all that we say we want freedom, there is a strange addiction to bondage.
I’m not talking S & M here. ☺
There is, often times, more of a comfort with feeling cramped and stifled than with feeling open and spacious. It’s almost as if somewhere along the line we were taught that it’s safer to feel over-worked, over-scheduled, over-tired, over-worried. That this is the way to keep things together, to keep things running smoothly, to ensure that all is effective and well. That allowing yourself to experience freedom and spaciousness could result in laziness, ineffectiveness, and everything basically falling apart.
And because of this, we tell ourselves that we can’t let go of unsavory clients, or that we need to keep very busy schedules, or that we need to send a newsletter each and every week.
But of course, that is simply not true.
It’s just one of the ways we keep ourselves stuck.
And it’s a way to avoid one of the things you want most: spaciousness.
Because sometimes it’s harder to take in goodness and good feelings than it is to feel stifled.
So, this Spring, how do you want to feel?
Do you want to feel in bondage?
Or do you want to feel free?
You get to choose!