In this age of social media, it’s so easy to keep up with your friend’s trip to Peru, your cousin’s birthday, watch friends’ kids take their first steps, learn about amazing events and causes, and keep up with what your colleagues are creating & teaching.
And of course, as an entrepreneur, Facebook is an incredible tool for expanding your reach and community, and communicating with those that want to learn from you.
But here’s what I’ve observed as the downside of Facebook, both for myself and lots of women I speak with:
Sometimes you see the amazing things other folks are doing on Facebook, and you start to feel bad about yourself. It looks like other people are:
–making more money than you
–working with more clients than you
–partnering with “cooler” people than you
–getting their books published when you haven’t started your manuscript yet
–getting more “Likes” than you
–posting brilliant thoughts and ideas that you have but haven’t posted yet!
Even if you’re super-accomplished or generally feel good about yourself and your business, Facebook can become a dangerous trap for hating on yourself, judging yourself, feeling “less-than”, and forgetting how amazing you actually are.
Because it’s human nature to compare yourself to others (unless you’re a monk meditating alone on a mountaintop!), and social media is one of the quickest, easiest ways to find out what other people are up to.
So how do you enjoy Facebook and use it to spread your Sacred Message without feeling sh*tty about yourself? Here are some tips:
Understand that Not Everyone Tells the Truth on Facebook:
I hate to say this, but some people lie, exaggerate or leave out important details on Facebook. It’s unfortunately part of Facebook culture for some folks, especially for those who want to project a certain image for their businesses.
It’s important that you know this because when it seems like some people always have great days, it’s not necessarily the case. We all have bad days here and there, or program launches that didn’t quite go as planned or hiccups in a campaign. Don’t compare yourself to “perfection”- it doesn’t exist.
Be Very Conscious about Why You’re Reading Other People’s Posts:
Because I know I’m sometimes prone to beat up on myself when reading other people’s posts, I am super-mindful about my reasons for reading them.
If my intention is to read my newsfeed to get inspiration from what others are doing or to keep up with friends and colleagues, I go ahead and do it. But, if I know I’m not feeling great about myself in that moment, or I’m going on because I really want to see how such & such a person’s campaign or event is going, it’s a red flag for me to find another business-building activity to do in that moment.
Create a Practice of Being Inspired By Other People’s Wins:
Here’s a fun experiment to try – before you go on Facebook, spend a quiet moment with yourself and set the intention to become more and more inspired and motivated by every positive Facebook post that your read.
Then give yourself a limit of reading 10-20 posts, and after each post that details a celebration of a colleague, literally visualize his or her celebration as lifting YOU up and contributing to your next success.
Take a Facebook Break:
While I’m all about being persistent and consistent in your marketing activities, it’s perfectly fine (& sometimes necessary!) to take a day-long or week-long (or month-long!) break from social media.
Taking a hiatus can give you time and space to bring your focus back to your own business and build happiness there, which is where it should be!
Bottom Line: It’s so important to take care of yourself and your emotional well-being, and if Facebook has been making you feel unworthy, begin to take note and take action to bring yourself into right relationship with your social media activities.