Do any of these situations sound familiar?:
Your client pays you a month late…for the third time.
You swallow your roommate’s jab at your choice of outfit, again.
Your child wakes you up for the fifth time at night.
You say “yes” with a grimace to Aunt Jane when you are asked to cook for the family get-together even though you are swamped with work.
These situations are all results of unclear, abused boundaries. Unhealthy boundaries can leave you feeling exhausted, resentful, and inauthentic in your relationships. When you allow your boundaries to be violated, you also often end up lacking in time, money and self-care.
Examples of good boundaries:
- Having a schedule and sticking to it
- Being clear about your rate, services, and availability
- Agreeing on timelines
- Knowing your “No’s” – what is it that is a deal breaker for you, is not okay – and following through on it
- Taking care of yourself before you take care of others
What happens when you have good boundaries:
- You feel energized
- You feel clear
- You find you are taking better care of yourself
- Your relationships feel authentic
- You have time for things
- You feel abundant
- You are able to serve in more ways
- You enjoy life more
So, what do you do if you sense that you are allowing your boundaries to be crossed and violated? Here is my proven 4-part process for creating healthy and happy boundaries in your life: ...keep reading
I appreciate Mother’s Day in a whole new way now that I’m a Mother myself.
Each year, when the early Spring comes around, I get excited.
In my last article I revealed the power of having a Soul-centered Vision to guide all of your actions. This week I want to bring you a bit more down to earth as we look at your Soul-Centered Mission.
Congratulations! So you have finally allowed yourself to recognize (even if just a little bit, like a tiny little whisper) the deep calling of your heart - that you would like to leave your job, write a novel, create a family, start painting portraits, really expand your business in order to reach more people, whatever it may be. But before you are even able to pick up a paintbrush, or make an hour of time in your busy schedule to write, you are bombarded by a slew of criticism whether internal or external.
Has something like this ever happened to you: a friend of yours gives you a call in the evening to invite you to lunch the next day. You are very busy and have been waiting to spend some quality time with yourself, your children, your husband, and just the prospect of going out to lunch with this particular friend makes you feel heavy and exhausted. Still, you say “yes” to her anyway because you feel you need to in order to maintain your friendship, or you fear that otherwise she will be upset with you since this is the third invitation you are turning down.
Do you have a challenging time with your schedule?
Delegating is so incredibly important because the more successful you become and want to be, the more responsibility there is. You are not supposed to be doing it all on your own! In fact, any good leader knows that the way to accomplish all that you want to accomplish is by enlisting others to help you out.
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